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Making Wise Choices

Ever been at a crossroad and had to make a choice on which path to take? It could be whom to marry, what job to take or something simple as what piece of furniture to buy.


If you will have to make any important decision soon …, read on!

The KEY to making wise choices is to let God lead you in any decision you make.

A big part is trusting God and giving Him the permission to choose what is right for you … and it’s possible you may not initially like His choice for you.

This is called submitting to His authority and believing that He knows best.

Look at a parent and child relationship – a child wants everything he/she sees but as a parent, you know what the child needs right now. A 7 year old may want to drive a car but a wise parent will give that child what is age appropriate e.g. a bike. As the child matures, the other desires are fulfilled.

Several years ago, I came to the realization that God is FOR me because on many an occasion, God saved me from myself. He saved me from my own poor choices, righted my ‘sinking ship’ and placed me on the path to success.

As a result, I have no problem praying according to this verse in Proverbs 30.

Being able to pray according to this verse is essential if you want God to rule and make wise decisions in your life.

Praying this verse effectively gives God the authority to say NO to my own desires and YES to the future plans He has for me.

It puts Him in the driving seat to determine what is good for me and because I know His thoughts for me are thoughts of peace (Jeremiah 29:11) I can rest assured that all things will work together for my good.

God knows my future, so He knows what type of spouse I need, what career and personal experiences I need to have and even where I should live at each stage of my life.

So each time before making a decision, I humble myself and take time to reflect on His word and promises to me whilst acknowledging that I do not know it all.

Do you sometimes go for things that may just not right for you but have become a ‘must have’ because others have it.

Are you living beyond your means due to peer pressure or keeping up with the ‘Jones’s’?

Are you dating the wrong person or engaged in certain behavior, just to be cool and fit in?

The first thing to do is pause and ask why you are doing what you do. The next step is to ask yourself if these choices are leading to a fulfilled and balanced life.

If not, then its time to change how you make choices and ask God to ‘feed’ or give you what is convenient for you.

How do you do this? It’s by saying a simple prayer to God on anything that bugs you.

Looking for a job? Pray that God will give you a JOB convenient for you.

Looking for a house? Pray that God will give you a HOUSE convenient for you.

Looking for a spouse? Pray that God will give you a SPOUSE convenient for you.

Looking for X? Pray that God will give you an X convenient for you.

It’s always better to get what is right for YOU rather than what looks good on someone else. Don’t live your life or fight your battles using someone else’s tool. (Ps. David did not fight Goliath with Saul’s armor. He did his own thing and used just stones and a sling to accomplish a great deal).

Don’t marry someone to impress your friends or buy a house in a certain neighborhood because your friends live there. What’s good for them may not be good for you.

Have courage to go for what you know is God’s best for you and your future, even though others may disagree or look down on you.

God must be central to all this because He created you and has awesome plans tailor made to make you the best you possible.

The wisest choice you can ever make is to trust Him.

He knows what you need and has already got them ready. All you have to do is trust Him to be faithful and true to His word.

Will YOU do that?????

Listen to this song, trust God and be blessed.


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Ever been misunderstood?

Being misunderstood is one of the most painful things that can happen to anyone.

Not only can it cause embarrassment, but it can lead to confusion and serious issues depending on the gravity of the situation.

Here’s a lighthearted look at 2 ‘confused’ people.

Good, isn’t it!

To misunderstand is to understand incorrectly, while thinking to have understood correctly.

In a nutshell, misunderstanding will lead you to the wrong conclusion which in turn can lead to a lot of problems like …

– broken relationships
– wrong priorities
– fear and worry
– anger
– misplaced exuberance
– wrong choices

What if you broke up a relationship, quit a job or got a divorce because of a misunderstanding?

The implications of not getting things right are enormous and that’s why God tells us in Proverbs 4 to ALWAYS get understanding, no matter how much its costs us. It IS a priority.

Proverbs 27:23 says we must be sure we know the condition of our families and pay careful attention to our relationships and affairs.

Listen attentively to your spouse, children and friends. Don’t assume you know what they are going through or going to say … before they have said it.

Also make sure you explain yourself clearly … don’t think others will ‘get it’, be able to read your mind or read between the lines.

It hurts when there is misunderstanding so let us purpose in our hearts to take time to listen carefully, explain ourselves properly, clarify issues and just have a great time with others.

Lets do it and be blessed.

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Why Jesus was born in a stable?

Here is a different, i.e. non spiritual, perspective on why Jesus was born in a stable and placed in a manger.

I think He was born in a manger because God wanted to make it clear to everyone, especially the shepherds, that they had identified Jesus as the right baby.

Why? because mistaken identity can cause problems … just take a look at this short video.


On any given night in a city like Bethlehem, several babies will be born.

Can you imagine the shepherds, barging into one house after the other, trying to find THE baby, talking excitedly about the Messiah and the angels they saw – there would have been a lot of confusion in the entire city and it could have led to the wrong child being identified.

God wanted the shepherds and the world to KNOW who Jesus and so He had a simple solution. Send the shepherds to a place they would be familiar and comfortable with … a stable.

Well, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it!!.

Have a blessed day.

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Speak LIFE … Your words have power … and they can kill

Do words matter?

Can things said in a moment of anger or as a joke change your life or that of the people around you?

I am sure we all know of people who have said things they wish they could take back because it led to a bad situation.

There is a story in the Bible about how one man’s ‘careless’ yet ‘justified’ words adversely impacted his family … and he did not realize it at the time.

To put things in context, I am going to let the Bible ‘speak’ for itself and then share a few insights at the end … read on!


17 So Jacob put his wives and children on camels,

18 and he drove all his livestock in front of him. He packed all the belongings he had acquired in Paddan-aram and set out for the land of Canaan, where his father, Isaac, lived.

19 At the time they left, Laban was some distance away, shearing his sheep. Rachel stole her father’s household idols and took them with her.

20 Jacob outwitted Laban the Aramean, for they set out secretly and never told Laban they were leaving.

21 So Jacob took all his possessions with him and crossed the Euphrates River, heading for the hill country of Gilead.

25 Laban caught up with Jacob as he was camped in the hill country of Gilead.

30 I can understand your feeling that you must go, and your intense longing for your father’s home. But why have you stolen my gods?”

31 “I rushed away because I was afraid,” Jacob answered. “I thought you would take your daughters from me by force.

32 But as for your gods, see if you can find them, and let the person who has taken them die! And if you find anything else that belongs to you, identify it before all these relatives of ours, and I will give it back!” But Jacob did not know that Rachel had stolen the household idols.


19 So Rachel died and was buried on the way to Ephrath (that is, Bethlehem).


I believe Rachel died in childbirth because of the oath Jacob made in Genesis 31:32.

Yes, it was unintentional because Jacob did not know she had taken the gods, however because of this oath, it’s likely he lost the woman he had worked 14 years for.

Jacob was a man of God and, spiritually, his words carry some weight. As a matter of fact, the Bible says that ‘the tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences’.

Let’s look at this from Jacob’s perspective. Think about this, everything was finally coming together for Jacob … his favourite wife who had been barren for so long was pregnant with a second child. He now had the wealth, the blessings and was on his way to his destiny BUT because of one rash statement, made probably out of frustration, he lost his loved one. The untimely death of Rachel will also lead him to favour her children, create rivalry, cause his other children to be jealous and, but for the grace of God in Joseph’s life, could have led to murder.

Be careful of the words you say and the oaths you make … they can come back to haunt you. We now live in an era of grace so it may not result in a physical death, but we can ‘kill’ our loved ones emotionally. Words once spoken can take root and do damage for a lifetime. Words like:

– you will never amount to much
– you are hopeless
– you are inferior
– you are ugly
– you are a mistake and we wish you were not born
– you are not as smart as your sister

While words like this may not kill physically, they may have the same effect by ‘killing’ initiative, self confidence, potential and self worth and can end up destroying that persons life.

Whenever you have a choice, pause, think about the impact of your words and speak LIFE, speak HOPE into that situation.

Be blessed.

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Be Bold

Is something making you afraid?

Maybe you have to make a presentation to your boss, ask ’someone special’ out on a date or have a legal battle ahead of you?

Whatever it is, fear and anxiety are not always bad because they are natural emotional responses to threats and danger. Like with most things, so long as you are in control instead of being controlled, it can turn out to be something positive. It becomes a problem when you allow it to paralyze you and stop you from becoming all that you ought to be.

The emphasis is on YOU because YOU have to confront fear and anxiety and move in the direction that gives victory. This requires boldness, which is a willingness to get things done despite the risks you may face.

Watch this video of people doing awesome things and let it motivate you to be bold and strong.

Be bold because God is with you. Christians are blessed because we have God Himself promising to help us when afraid. Whenever fear creeps in, we need to ask ourselves if we are walking in faith and have a victorious mindset? If not, then we need to spend more time in God’s word and learn about His promises.

Listed below are just a few of His awesome promises:

Deuteronomy 31:8

Psalm 27

Psalm 34

Psalm 37

Philippians 4

The Bible is full of many more such promises and knowing and acting on them should give you the confidence to pursue your goals.

You have a choice – either believe God and His word or forget about Him (and all the other promises He has for you).

Choose to believe and fill your mind with His promises!

Afraid? … feel the fear and ‘do it afraid’!

Be blessed



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Make That Move

It’s like de ja vu all over again.

It is so easy to get ‘stuck in a rut’ and love being there. Do you know how long it took me to start this blog? Way Toooo Long!

Wanna know why? Laziness and procrastination (loved my sleep), excuses (I needed an ‘editor’ to review my articles) and not prioritizing (busy doing nothing).

Now, lets talk about you! What is before you that requires you to make a move? Is it going out on a date with someone special, starting a new business or going back to school? Whatever it is, the longer you delay, the more you’ll be without it.

Listen to this song and while not necessarily Christian, there is some wisdom in the words.


Some of you have been walking round your proverbial ‘wall of Jericho’ for 20 years instead of 7 times.

There are men or women you could have married, businesses you could have started but, for whatever reason, you never made it happen. Others now have, and are enjoying, what could have been yours.


It’s time to blow your proverbial trumpet so your dream can come true.

Do something now so you don’t die with your gifting and talent.

Forgive that person who hurt or offended you.

When I look back over my life, the things I regret most are the things I did not do. There can be nothing worse than being on your death bed and imagining what life could have been only if you had …… (you fill in the blanks)

Don’t let fear stop you from maximizing your life. Don’t hold back and let the good things in life pass you by. Don’t let a past mistake or experience paralyse you.

It’s time to ‘make that move’! Step out in faith.

Do it and be blessed.

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Making Wise Choices

Ever been at a crossroad and had to make a choice on which path to take? It could be...
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Ever been misunderstood?

Being misunderstood is one of the most painful things that can happen to anyone. Not...
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Why Jesus was born in a stable?

Here is a different, i.e. non spiritual, perspective on why Jesus was born in a stable...
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Speak LIFE … Your words have power … and they can kill

Do words matter? Can things said in a moment of anger or as a joke change your life or...
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Be Bold

Is something making you afraid? Maybe you have to make a presentation to your boss, ask...
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Make That Move

It’s like de ja vu all over again. It is so easy to get ‘stuck in a rut’ and love being...
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